This is never not funny.
This is never not funny.
It’s always mildly amusing when friends find out I’m attached – and have been for the past 3.5 years – and get shocked or surprised or even offended that they didn’t know, as if it’s my duty to offer information about my love life. I’m aware that their reactions are mostly because of the seemingly extremely unusual fact that I don’t display my relationship status and photos on social media. It seems to be increasingly difficult for people to wrap their heads around the peculiar notion that you can still have an offline relationship in an online age, which perplexes me. It’s almost as if you’re not in relationship if it’s not in every Facebook status, tweet or Instagram photo. The furthest I go is by tagging the boyfriend in Instagram photos with a message (even then, nothing overly personal or mushy) that reflects our relationship status, albeit never blatantly. Or by writing about us in this space in ambiguous romantic prose.
I have nothing against people whose social media accounts are littered with their couple shots. It’s always nice to know what and who makes your friends smile, anyway. In fact, I’ve been there, done that, and truly had tons of fun letting everyone know the silly things I did in a relationship. If you’re happy in love and you want to display it loud and proud to the world and their mothers, go right ahead. More power to you for being so beautifully unabashed in your love.
I’ve just decided to divorce myself from the online aspect. Especially after getting into this relationship. When you meet someone whose love is more special than anything you’ve ever felt, it ignites a protective instinct that you never knew existed. There is so much magic in finding someone whose flaws hinge neatly onto yours, that you want to preserve the intimacy. You deserve to be selfish with the things that make you happy, and I’ve discovered that happiness for me comes from keeping the best parts of my life private – so that our inside jokes are ours and not 852 followers’, and the way I light up when he’s around is not captured in a digital square crop, but in our heads and hearts.
I will keep this love offline. Not to the foolish extent of never sharing our joy with anyone, but simply by deciding that the commonality of social media won’t do justice to a love that is anything but common.
A little something I wrote in response to everyone who usually replies, “huh you’re attached?!”, when I talk to them about my relationship
The head of a company survived 9/11 because
His son started kindergarten.
Another fellow was alive because it was
His turn to bring donuts.
One woman was late because her
Alarm clock didn’t go off in time.
One was late because of being stuck on the NJ Turnpike
Because of an auto accident.
One of them
Missed his bus.
One spilled food on her clothes and had to take
Time to change.
Car wouldn’t start.
Get a taxi.
The one that struck me was the man
Who put on a new pair of shoes that morning,
Took the various means to get to work but before.
He got there, he developed a blister on his foot.
He stopped at a drugstore to buy a Band-Aid.
That is why he is alive today..
Now when I am
Stuck in traffic,
Miss an elevator,
Turn back to answer a ringing telephone…
All the little things that annoy me,
I think to myself,
This is exactly where
I’m meant to be
At this very moment
— (via theoutsiders)
i know the ‘best post on tumblr’ title gets passed around a lot but i really do think this is the best post on tumblr
this just struck me so hard
People have vast
universes inside of
them and it’s so
lovely to become
you have sunsets
somewhere in your
heartbeats I’d love
to watch up close
and chasms in your
chest I can see
— David Levithan (via durianquotes)
“Sometimes you meet someone, and it’s so clear that the two of you, on some level belong together. As lovers, or as friends, or as family, or as something entirely different. You just work, whether you understand one another or you’re in love or you’re partners in crime. You meet these people throughout your life, out of nowhere, under the strangest circumstances, and they help you feel alive. I don’t know if that makes me believe in coincidence, or fate, or sheer blind luck, but it definitely makes me believe in something.”
— (via tardismetotomorrowworld)
— (via dustofsleep)